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How do I make hair washing and brushing easier for my autistic child?

Hair washing and brushing can be uncomfortable for different reasons. Ask your child what feels difficult and what help is welcome. Offer choices, pause for distress, and speak with a clinician if there is pain or a concern.

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Which part of hair washing is actually the problem?

Notice what your child communicates about water, touch, noise, products or brushing. There may be more than one reason for discomfort, including pain. Ask what your child wants to change rather than assuming one cause.

What can make the water part easier?

If your child agrees, consider trying a cup, a visor or a different water temperature. Explain what you plan to do and honor a request to stop. Ask a clinician about products or skin concerns.

What can make brushing easier?

A wide-tooth comb or detangling brush and working gently from the ends may help some children. Ask whether your child wants help, and stop if there is pain or distress; do not force hand guidance.

How do a visual schedule and giving control help?

A short picture sequence can help some children anticipate a routine. Make the steps with your child and agree on a way to pause or stop. Paper works; adjust or set the schedule aside if it does not help.

Is a shorter haircut a reasonable option, and can an occupational therapist help?

A shorter style is one option to discuss with your child. If pain, scalp problems or difficulty with hair care persist, ask your child's clinician about an assessment and whether an occupational therapist might help.

Try a visual routine together

For example, draw: choose a brush → brush gently → pause or finish. You can draw the steps on paper or use the free visual schedule maker. The maker asks for contact details before it opens; your paper version stays free.

For the methods behind a routine, Journey to Independence: ABA for Parents includes 27 recorded sessions and downloadable slides. A seven-day free trial is available; previous trials of included material may affect eligibility. If you choose to buy, access is for 12 months in one payment; see the current price on the course page. See the course and trial.

Already started a trial or bought the course? Try signing in with the email you used, then return to the course list link. If you cannot find your lessons, contact us. For help, email info@special-learning.com.

Source: National Autistic Society. This page is general information; ask a professional about your child's situation.

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